What women need to understand.

Women complain a lot about men and this is something that has resulted to family separation because women are yet to understand something about men. Talking about dirty mismanagement and laziness when it comes to home chores and how men left or display their clothing once the wife has arranged and such kind of things can make young marriages break so easily.

Men complain of doing washing, cooking and arranging their thing. When they get married they do it with a mind that the helper will be doing all such kind of things and it will never bother them. Now assuming that, they become irresponsible in that field and they don’t care about it any more. Supposed you have married a lady who has been seeing you being very neat and clean every time and they think it will remain the same when you stay together in that institution.

No all men are like that but there some things that they have in common and that is they don’t like doing house work. Women should understand that men can be very irresponsible in the house because they are expecting that you as a wife will do it.  And if a man marries a woman who has this behavior, then one has to change or else quarrels will be every moment greetings.

When you think of the creation story, God created men from dust and dust is dirt. That is why men are connected to dust. While women were created from the flesh. Men will always have that mind of dirt in them and there is no change expected unless the woman brings it to them. There are parents who has taken care of their boys and they has become very responsible but they still have the same mind though that has added impact into their family life.

Men are made men by the women, what women instill in men’s life is what makes them the best husband and dad to that family and also to the nations leaders. If a man doesn’t get this from a woman, then the outcomes will be dirty. Understanding this will help you as a woman will be praised by the society because your family will reflect your personality. There is a saying that goes that all men are boys but not all boys who are men. If a woman plays her role in the marriage that boy will become a great man and men should also play their roles.

Can being busy cause seperation?

Some may say no while others may say yes. But it depends on what one believes but if one has experienced this can give an appropriate answer, and this came about when i met afriend who regrets on what she did. Just reminded me what a certain speaker said at a time i attended  ladies meeting,  that women have now changed and they want to do men’s work or duties. And this gives me a reason why my friend was regretting of being busy working for the family and the husband had told her not to over work bbecause he could make the ends meet for his family but the wife said no, i have to work.

She could not create time for the husband because of  work. And this was the cause of seperation since the husband as you know how men are when disrespect or when they see like women/wives are not caring about them. He went on and married another lady who could affor all the time in the world for him.

The same thing happen to men who do not create time for their wives and children they always end up losing their family and mostly the respect they had. This is the greatest shame that a man can go through. And so we can be busy but we should be creating time for our families and this will make all of us proud. Let us be caring and live happily as we work hard.

Why do we hear many divorce and separation…

Why do we hear many divorce and separation cases nowadays than before?

Relationships

This is a story given by a friend; I was walking down in the village and along the way I was thinking about this gal I was dating and she was cheating on me. She was always sending me SMS when time comes and I was busy she began to complain. When we were dating, her messages were …and this made me feel like she is the girl for my life, but one day I called her and she told me that she is married thinking it was a joke, she gave the husband the phone. I felt like I could never love again, but this was the beginning of the relationship which differs from one person to another and reasons for being in relationship differs, but this final destination is always one. Want to be loved, people want to receive and give a little bit of kit, this has made relationship to be taken as business. Does that sound like it’s not true? Okay lets narrow it to lovers’ relationship or boy, girl relationship. Ok you still want us to narrow it further. a relationship leading to marriage.

Many of us are either preparing to be in a relationship or we are already in one .if relationship is to work ,then some guidelines have been used to give the you last result or they are guiding you.
Many are the people whose marriage are in rocks or heated there because of the guidelines they were using.
Many ladies begin with a list of qualities. Likewise to my fellow men, but they have always forgotten that they don’t belong to themselves but they belong to their maker. For example, you cannot buy a saloon car and expect it to work of a pick-up. Every time we put characters as a guideline then we are hooked up with a wrong person.
It’s always good to let your maker to have a say in your life because you have a purpose to life for.
In the second point you must have good reasons why you want to be in relationship. If it is for fun, then when fun ends then the relationship end as there. If it’s to make children, when the business of making children gets to the end, then the relationship ends. If it is to have sex, then after sex you forget about your marriage and only remember you are married when you want to have sex. Ooh if you are in relationship for finances .ooh sorry because when money stop flowing the relationship stops flowing too. If you are marring a title, this title foe example lawyer will always be here but the partner will always be away.
What am driving at is that you have to let GOD in your life and in minor and major decisions of your life as you take time in your life in making decisions.
Friends there is a danger in engaging into a relationship for the wrong reasons .for you will always get hurt. Make a check list of what you want of relationship and if the big beneficiary in the relationship is you then you are going no where in that relationship. Love is giving out and it’s not a recipient so if you want to receive sorry you must give first and expect no return because this is an affair but not business. Go and make it ha happen. It is a principle you harvest what you planted.
I was talking to one of my friends and as we was conversing I can not remember where it all began but she promised to give me Gods way of calculating but it was amazing because it was 1+1=1 I did not stop there but I went back to the bible and I realized that the same formula is there and it was husbands. Love your wives as Christ loved the church, this turns to women submit to your husband. Dear readers if you add love and submission the result is unity when you love you should be ready to listen, care, fellowship and rejoice while submission is hard but it is easily achieved when you get determined. Submissions Commands love to grow. It can only work when the formula is followed to the dot. So there is no way out if one side is not performing its duty. Go try it out if the last result won’t be amazing.
Ephesians5:23-25
I wish all the best in your relationship

Homes.

Homes are started with a lot of love and affections supported by promises which give hopes and makes one to keep on going day in day out thinking of their spouse. Do we ask ourselves what really happens when people keep on being together ? They get their first born to the third born or even fifth and still love each other? Or do you ask yourself what happens that people who have been in love and have started it well are no longer together? This two status has been in many homes, many people do say maybe he or she was not the one created for me and many other thing.

There are things that makes homes to stand, first the love; maintaining that feeling you you both feel for each other makes it strong each day, respect and being submissive to your spouse as a wife keeps him coming or being near to you because he feels like a man who has the authority even if it is not outside there with other people but inside that house he is known to be the head., handwork as a couple without humiliating any side will keep your home standing despite what king of storm may attack you because is supported with love. Cleanilness even with no better clothes or a good house will reflect a good picture outside there and so it is very important for the mother/wife to put that in mind.

What makes many home to collapse is ; failure for the both not to maintain the kind of feeling they were feeling for each other, this is caused by disrespect, not accepting each other, aurguments over small issues, lack of forgiveness, lack of money and not wanting any other party offering help like the parents and counselliors.

When children come into the life of all couples it gives them the pride and this acts as one thing that can unity of separate them completely. One may parent may offer all love to the baby and forget there is/was my wife or there was/is my husband. But if both accept the present which is the baby and continue paying attention to each other all goes well.

Our children needs our time and we also do need our time and on other hand our parents say that we lost them and forget there were people like them, how about that? This happen to be a very disturbing factor in marital issues and it breaks many families. This is a matter of organizing yourself to avoid the words that comes out of our parents mouth, they can be cursing or blessing, their words has made many families broke up.

It is good to be a father and to be a father with your children calling your so and knowing that you are not a lone in the world but you someone to support or  to support you.

A good Husband

Several men are in the locker room of a golf club. A cell phone on a bench
rings and a man engages the hands free speaker-function and begins to talk.
Everyone else in the room stops to listen.

MAN: “Hello”

WOMAN: “Honey, it’s me. Are you at the club?”

MAN: “Yes”

WOMAN: “I’m at the mall now and found this beautiful leather coat. It’s only $1,000. Is it OK if I buy it?”

MAN: “Sure, ..go ahead if you like it that much.”

WOMAN: “I also stopped by the Mercedes dealership and saw the new 2010 models. I saw one I really liked.”

MAN: “How much?”

WOMAN: “$60,000″

MAN: “OK, but for that price I want it with all the options.”

WOMAN: “Great! Oh, and one more thing . The house we wanted last year is back on the market. They’re asking $950,000.”

MAN: “Well, then go ahead and give them an offer, but just offer $900,000.”

WOMAN: “OK. I’ll see you later! I love you!”

MAN: “Bye, I love you, too.” The man hangs up.

The other men in the locker room are looking at him in astonishment.
Then he smiles and asks: “Anyone know who this phone belongs to?”

Choosing a wife

A man wanted to get married. He was having trouble choosing among three likely candidates. He gives each woman a present of $5,000 and watches to see what they do with the money.

The first does a total makeover. She goes to a fancy beauty salon, gets her hair done, new makeup; buys several new outfits and dresses up very nicely for the man. She tells him that she has done this to be more attractive for him because she loves him so much. The man was impressed.

The second goes shopping to buy the man gifts. She gets him a new set of golf clubs, some new gizmos for his computer, and some expensive clothes. As she presents these gifts, she tells him that she has spent all the money on him because she loves him so much. Again, the man is impressed.

The third invests the money in the stock market. She earns several times the $5,000. She gives him back his $5,000 and reinvests the remainder in a joint account. She tells him that she wants to save for their future because she loves him so much. Obviously, the man was impressed.

The man thought for a long time about what each woman had done with the money he’d given her. Then he married the one with the biggest tits.