Not Cinderella but Delilah! The strange woman

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Strange Woman

One of the most significant creatures that god created and made was woman. From her first entrance into this earth to this day there has always been something that is so irresistible in her. Remember what is recorded in the bible, that when Adam woke up and saw her he had to recognize that this is a different creature. We are not told that he saw a cow and said that it shall be called a cow and will give me milk. No no…. she recognized the woman and said that she was the bone of his bones. There must have been something about her. The connection or the link, that is, coming from the same body. She was the helper met for Adam above any other thing that had been made.

This creature who was given a name woman by Adam has faced a lot of attacks since the beginning. She was the one who was approached by the devil while he wanted to attack the Kingdom of God and snatch it from the human hands. She fell into the trap and there we begin to see the trouble under the sun or rather hell under the sun.

We know more about the tongue, lips and eyes. But the lips of a woman have charm that makes many fall. It actually affects the members of the opposite sex. The men. We read of stories in the bible of people like Samson and how he fell into the trap of one woman who is Delilah. He never intended to tell the secret of his strength to anyone. The mother had the knowledge of it since she was the one instructed by God not to cut his son’s hair.

When Solomon was writing proverbs he talked of the instructions that he was given concerning ‘a strange woman.’ He says that her lips drop as an honeycomb and her mouth is smoother than oil. I once heard a preacher say that there are three things that make great men of God fall and one of them was woman. You wonder why and how this can happen. It all comes from one organ, the lips.

Many people say that the woman charm is only in the body or even eyes. This is half the truth. The lips of a woman can make any man or woman get into the box and locked there in. It would actually take efforts for such to be delivered. The words of a strange woman as Solomon says are smoother than oil. They will hit your ears and penetrate inside your heart to the whole of your mind. They slay alive but softly.

He is also instructed not to lust after her beauty and not to let himself be taken by her eyelid. This charm of a strange woman brings about foolishness and obsession in the heart of a man. A man can leave his wife and children to be with a strange woman. This has nothing to do with witchcraft but with what is coming from the mouth of such a woman. Through this your find yourself lost in a world that you were not called to be in.

What do you do to escape from a strange woman? The instructions that Solomon was receiving are the same and totally applicable today.

  • Don’t give in to her eyelid.
  • As a man when you notice such a woman you need to disconnect with her.
  • Do look after her to lust.
  • Don’t give your ears to listen to what she may say.
  • Take your position as a man and silence her.
  • Let the commandment of the Lord be a lamp and the law as light.
  • Embrace wisdom [Jesus Christ] and let understanding be your kinswoman.
  • Refuse to embrace the bosom of a stranger and refuse to feel the breast of a stranger.
  • Be a prudent man who can foresee the evil and hide himself from it. Here you apply wisdom to get out of it. Don’t wait for it to happen
  • Don’t entertain any strange woman because you will soon lose your joy and everything you owned.

The bible says that whore is a deep ditch and a strange woman is a narrow pit.

If you get into the narrow pit which is to get into the hands of the strange woman, you will suffer. Don’t allow yourself into their hands. Flee from such a women.


Reasons Why A Real Man Would Never Cheat On Someone He Truly Loves

Hi friends, it has been a while since ui posted something here. Here is a guest post written by a male friend. read and post your opinion

men and boys

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So many” boys”, so few real men.

I’m rather pissed off at all “stupid boys”,parading about like actual men.

Because these so “many boys ” have managed to cheat on so many women and break their trust, there seems to be very few women left who are willing to trust another man.

I’m certain that plenty of great guys have had to carry the baggage some other “douchebag ” left behind. When you break a woman’s trust, you will never get it back. I really mean never. Sadly, you’re also ruining it for the next guy.And by this,you’re ruining the whole society ,because we all come from a woman !

By cheating on a woman, you are screwing her over for the long run – she’ll likely be unable to trust another man for years to follow. Real men don’t cheat. Here’s why:

difference between men and boys

1.Real men are emotionally stable.

We usually hear about women having trouble controlling their emotions. Well,that could make sense in some way ,but truth  be told, men are much worse:While women have the intelligence to share their feelings and discuss their problems (most of the time), men like to keep it bottled up.

Until, of course, they can’t take it any longer and explode. When something goes wrong in a relationship, women may very well cry, they may complain, they may throw tantrums or give you the silent treatment, but men – weak men – pretend like they feel nothing.

Once their cup flows over, they look for whatever release they can.

  1. They drink
  2. They smoke
  3. They mess
  4. They become crazy

and get mad‼.️Unfortunately, since they aren’t on talking terms with their woman, they mess whatever they can find. Real men ,however,deal with their emotions appropriately.

2.Real men have enough willpower to keep it in their pants.Yes ,they have!

I’m sorry to have to tell you this gentlemen, but because you are males naturally ,”you are going to want to sleep with every beautiful woman to your eyes,who crosses your path. Literally, every single one.”Forgive me but it was the case to Samson,David ,Solomon,etc,well you know the stories!

If you’re a real man, however, you won’t risk screwing up what you have for a brief few minutes in the sack with a woman you more than likely won’t have chemistry with. If you really want sex that badly then why not sleep with the woman who loves you?Your wife,your spouse?What”s hard with that ???

If the sex bores you, then do something to make it more exciting. It takes two to tango – if she won’t bring the whipped cream ,then I am sorry,it’s up to you to do so.Be the master .

3.Real christian men don’t start courting women they don’t love or don’t believe they can one day love!

They  don”t infatuate.Important to say,”dating ” is a casual word that shouldn’t be a word in Christianity !A christian man and woman should start being together when courting(being together here doesn’t mean being carnally involved!)That was the case for Mary and Joseph!

Obviously, we all date people we aren’t yet certain we will fall for — if love at first sight exists, it’s rarely the case. However, many will date someone they don’t especially care about simply for convenience.(the truth)!So stop the so called”dates”!

Why go out to find tail when you can have it delivered? Real men understand that women aren’t objects and therefore don’t use them simply to satisfy their own needs.
When they know they don’t love a woman then they cut things off instead of continuing to lead them on.There”s totally no purpose for that!

4.Real men are respectful.

They treat people with respect when respect is due… especially when it comes to the women they’re courting. Cheating is lying; it’s breaking trust and it proves that you care little about your partner as a lover, friend and as a human being.

To cheat is to act as if you’re better than she is and the fact is that you aren’t. There”s no right way to doing something wrong! Break her trust and you will never really get her back. Perhaps some here had to learn this the hard way.

5.Real men don’t need to add notches to their belts simply to make themselves feel like men.

Real men know that they’re real men. They can feel it with every step they take – and more often than not it shows. It shows in their demeanor and in their actions. Too many worldly “men” these days believe it’s laudable to sleep with as many women as possible – as if it were some sort of game, and women are collectables of sorts.That”s really bad …so bad and heinous!

Women aren’t objects, and this game that you’re playing is called life. If you get caught cheating and the stakes are high enough then you can ruin your life.

6.Real men would never hurt the woman they love.

To be fair, real men would never hurt any woman, but especially not the woman they understand as being an extension of themselves.They can never stand even seeing the person they love being hurt by somebody or something else .

7.Real men love and care for themselves as well as those who are closest to them.

If you are lucky enough to have found a woman to love (and are luckier still to have her love you back), then do everything in your power to keep her smiling. There is nothing worse in the world than losing a person you love. Mistakes are mistakes… but they aren’t always forgivable.

8.Real men know what’s important in life – and it’s not another piece of a woman. No,not!

Proper men are too busy living the life of their dreams to bother with excess. They are working on attaining all that it is that they want in life, but more importantly still, they understand what it is that they really want.

As men, we often want more than is good for us. Only when we get what we thought we wanted do we come to realize the error of our ways. I will tell you right now that there should only be one woman for you.I said one woman as a mouth !

That one woman who will love you for your entire life is all that really matters. The rest you won’t even remember.Even their names !!!

9.Real men have the guts to break up with a woman.

I know this sounds strange,but it”s the truth.As in,why would you waste your time with a person you see no future with in the first place???
If you plan on cheating on her then you clearly don’t want to be with her.Stop lying to yourself,you don’t love her ,neither are you nearer to that! If you realize you had made a mistake at the first place by choosing the wrong person,and the woman isn’t in the ways of the Lord,(this applies to women too),overcome self pity or regrets and run for your dear life,ask God and seek for that one right person in your life !Grow a pair and break things off. You’re clearly going to do it sooner or later.

Rip that bandaid off and get it over with. Be a real man and not a quivering coward.
Be a Real Man !!!

10.Real men are sure

Real men are sure of what they want in life,they are not just trying their luck as to whether the woman will accept them or love them!No ,they choose the woman that they know fits them best and are ready to move on with and spend the whole of their lives with,under all circumstances,come rain ,come sunshine,by hooks or crooks!It is very true that,a woman by whom you have totally sacrificed and given all your life and yourself for,will be impossible to trade her even for a minute with another woman!If you do truly love a person,you take them as yourself  and even more ,becoming so jealous for them and it”d be so hard to let anybody else play with them!Imagine somebody else playing with your woman(I hope you have done that),now put yourself in her shoes!Think of it…..,good,now don”t ever betray your partner!Never!

With that,good luck in being real men and real women!

Mr. and Mrs. Perfect partner does not existence in this world

Mr. Right

Mr. right

My mister right should be tall dark and handsome, he should be tall, masculine, white and handsome, his body should make every woman salivate when they see him, his teeth should be well shaped and white, his smile should be a number one killer when he opens his mouth, should have dark lips, he should have a super walking style, dresses nice, every suit he puts should fit his body perfectly, should have wills smith’s body, should have worked on his vision and be financially stable, should love fun as I do, should come from a family that has a name, should have built at least a classy house within this capital city, he should be an outing guy, should be a gentleman, he should be mature, should have a sense of humor, should be romantic, should be good in bed, among other qualities.

She should be totally beautiful, should be a black beauty, should be light skinned, should be white, she should be 5fts tall, should be slim, must have the African’s body shape even if she is size 14, should be size 8 with figure 8, should have a sense of fashion, should be classy and professional in all her art of doing things, should know how to cook, should respect men, should value men, should love life, should be fun, outgoing, should be able to challenge me, be good in bed, be able to give birth to beautiful kids, should have a mother kind of a nature, should be a wife material and more.

Find your imperfect Mr. right instead

But you can get a virtuous woman and a man of high caliber…… stop looking for a perfect partner and look for a righteous partner.

The lists can go on and on. I once met a lady who told me that she cannot marry a man who she described and wrote a list of the qualities he should have. That is how it is to ladies, if you happen to bring the man that she wanted when she was 18 to her when she is 23 she will not date him. They change as the knowledge increases.

There was once a couple’s seminar and attendance was so good. Every man with his rib listening carefully to the counselor. As the meeting was going on this counselor told them to secretly write the qualities they would look for if there was an opportunity to marry again. These men and women wrote things and when the guy read them and checked on what they had written, he tore the papers and told them the kind of people described in those lists has never existed under the sun.

You may wonder why? Well, we are all looking for Mr. Perfect guy and Mrs. Perfect woman who cannot mess or make any mistake. Who cannot do a wrong calculation or hurt a being. People write lists especially when they are young and talk about it in their meetings. Actually, this is one of the most interesting topics ever discussed by friends and youth groups.  Everyone wants to know the kind of a man you want date or even marry. Well, we go on and give descriptive qualities, which leave others in awe of whether that person is available or not. This mostly affects those who are interested in the person giving the qualities for the ideal man or woman.

The fact remains that we have to bear with one another in all things. You will never meet a man who cannot sin, make a mistake, or do a whole mess in a particular issue. We all have weaknesses, which bring us down at times. However, the best thing is that it is possible to get a person who can put up with it. Another thing is that there are some qualities, which are developed by a partner in another partner’s life. I once heard this man talk and said that he will not mind getting married to a woman everyone thinks that is ugly because he can make her beautiful.

That is a true saying. If it is her dressing which you do not like, then work it out. Dress her up with what you think is right and fitting for her. If you think he smells then let him know and bring him the solution. These things are there and you can deal with them. If you are looking for a perfect person then we are sorry because you will have to get the imperfect one and learn to bear with their weaknesses. Instead look for a righteous person.

Who Makes A King and A Man In A Boy Child’s Life

If he can lead a family he can lead a land.’ By Josephine Waisay

Make a king in a boys life

Boy Child’s Life

One of the most discussed topics in lady’s topic is ‘a gentleman’. Every lady out there is looking for a gentleman. A man who is handling a lady like a weaker vessel. Very gently. However, getting such is rare to be sincere. This man must have gone through the hands of a person who molded him to become that gentle man. Other titles which are actually used is what we have used on the topic such as a man not by title but in everything his being has and also a king. Someone who rules in a certain kingdom and he feels it and people sees it. In our post today, we are going to find out who makes a boy to be a king and a man.  This is because a man is actually made. Just like in the case of a woman. She must be nurtured into a virtuous woman not by nature but by someone.

The sayings that we know are totally true and has a lot of sense in them. Let’s look at them;

  • It takes a King to mentor a King
  • It takes a man to groom a boy into a man
  • It takes a man to man a man
  • It takes a king-to-king size a new king

We must have a man and a woman to help this young boy…. Read below…


Well, they are quite a number but we will still discuss this here and help you understand your role in making a king in a boy or ‘manning’ a man. Most of us learn from those who are near us always how to do things even before we get our senses to think and decided what to do. This starts when a child is young. He will not just come with a new style from nowhere. He must have seen or heard it somewhere. That is how we all learn.

For a boy to become a king there must be a king in his life from his tender age. Otherwise, where will he learn from? Actually, boys who grow with both parents benefit a lot from this or at times, they may get the worst of it. It takes a man of high caliber to make that small boy to become a real man even when he is still small. This is because the man figure or king is showing this boy how to do things and he must be doing the same for this boy to get some nuggets from him and join them in his senses to become the king. Most boys who have kings in their lives end up becoming better kings than their mentors.

The man maybe the father to this boy child, a mentor, big brother or uncles. They are supposed to play the whole role to ensure that the little man becomes a man and a king. If a man is not groomed, there is no way he can groom another one. This means a boy must have a groomed man in his life for him to be a man. That is why it is important for the single mothers to find some men of high caliber who can man their young ones in all ways.

If a man is not a man enough in how he carries himself and handles issues there is no way he can bring a up a man or king in boy’s life. This calls out men out there to be groomed if at all we are going to have men in the society who are real men. Otherwise, the society will remain toned as it is right now.

According to the bible, we see find King David giving instruction to his son who later became the king. He was instructed on how to carry himself and what to do. We need men who are instructing their sons in everything. Be a man in that boy’s life and make him follow your instructions when he is still young and when he grows up he will apply them. We also find Solomon the king telling sons to keep their father’s commandments and mother’s instructions. If your boys lack this then the foundation is destroyed.

A father or a boy’s mentor should know what is good for that young man. We find the case of Abraham in the bible knowing what is good for his son. He gives instructions to his servant on where to go and get a wife for Isaac. This means he knew what was the best for his son. Isaac had been taught by his father to obey the commandment and so we don’t see anywhere he is saying that he does not want that wife. This is because his father knew what is best for his son and he chooses the right person to go get the wife.

Now, wait for the part two of this next week as we talk about how a mother is supposed to man up a boy into a man. Don’t forget if he can lead a family he can lead a land, if only he is brought up like a responsible man.



Boy Child’s Life

Boy Child’s Life

Most boys like their mothers and they grow with them. Mummies play a very significant role in their life. That is why we are finding King Lemuel saying what his mother told him in proverbs 31. If she didn’t maybe we won’t be reading it. Boys talk of their mothers more and they are close to each other by nature. Therefore, when that boy is still your boy you need to man him up. Tell him what to do and when to do it. Actually, women know what to expect from a man and how a man should carry himself than men themselves. They know how they should be treated better than a man know how to treat a woman.

This means you can help this boy when he is still young. Let him know that he is a man. Treat him like a man and a king when he is still small. Let him learn from you much and allow him to spend time with his father, uncles and men who have qualities that you want your son to carry in him all the days of his life.

If you read what Paul the apostle writes to Timothy his son in faith in, you will know the truth in this. Paul says that Timothy has the unfeigned faith, which was in his grandmother and his mother.  From these two women we get to know where this young man got his faith. What has your son learnt from you? What will people say that this young man got it from her mother? Think of it.

We also find Samson’s mother being instructed by God on how to bring up his son as a Nazarene. Why not from his father? I can only guess this…. But it shows expressly a woman has to play a very significant role in bringing up his boy child.

A mother should be a teacher to this boy. Let him learn the fundamentals of life from you. Dressing, walking, talking and everything he must be taught by you. Any virtuous woman can handle such a task very well and he will produce a product that a nation is looking for.

We also find Hannah, Samuel’s mother taking charge over his son’s life. She gave birth to him and had already decided how his life should be. She took the young boy in the house of God and that is where he grew up in. Apart from that we find her taking care of him. He used to dress him. Every year he could go and take something to him. Mothers should also do the same. They should know what is right for their sons and give it to them. If your son’s dressing or character doesn’t please you as a mom then know it is because you made some fault in one of his life’s steps. Maybe you took him in a boarding school and forgot to instruct and mentor him.

Sisters should also help the young boy. The mother should teach them that this is not just a boy in the house. The man respect should be given to him when he is still young even if he is the youngest of them all. Let him be taught how to handle issues. Let him know how far he can go as the father gives limitations.

Going back to the story of Isaac you will notice that Sarah knew what was best for her son. He knows who is supposed to inherit the wealth and riches of the husband. She sends Ishmael’s mother away because she recognized the rights of her son. This is how it should be. Know what portion your son should take and let him know what belong to him and how to take of it. Do not let him waste it with women or friends. He must be molded into responsibility from that small age.

Be like Isaac’s wife who knew who was supposed to take what. She had wisdom and apart from loving Jacob, she knew he was supposed to take the blessing.

Mothers must be prophets of their son’s destiny

In the beginning of proverbs 31, we find king telling us that this is the prophecy which was given by his mother to him. It was ‘instructory’ if we may say and it helped the king. You also need to do the same to your boy child every day. Speak good things in their life.

If you are a virtuous woman, with sons or without sons, make every boy who come on your way to feel like a king. Remember if he can lead a family, he can lead a land. Thank you..

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A Man of high caliber

If he can lead a family he can lead a land.’ By Josephine Waisay

There is no doubt that every man want to feel like a king at every moment but there are some things which will disqualify any man from being a king. A man of high caliber talks about a person who is of high qualities. We need to know what qualities these are and what makes him be such a man. In addition, there are some things which will make him not to be such a man. We will also be getting some highlights from proverbs 31 where King Lemuel was talking of a prophecy that he received from his mother. I wonder how many mothers give counsel to their sons or how many sons get it from their mothers and apply it.

Man on proverbs 31

A Man of high caliber

If you check on proverbs 31 Lemuel’s mother recognizes this son to be hers. She has no doubt and that is why she is careful to guide him. She goes on to tell him what to avoid. The number one thing is not giving his strength unto women. You may wonder what she had seen because she must have had an experience in her life or learnt it from somebody else’.

How does a man give his strength to women? This should be the first question that any man should ask himself. There are many way. Strength in a man is hidden in his manhood and we can say this is the stronghold of a man. If you don’t have it then you are not a man. This tells you that you should not waste it or rather pour it out to women. It is not to be shared with various women who come in your way.

It has to be kept for one woman who you will marry for reproduction purpose and this will produce a family. Any other purpose that this strength is used in is not appropriate and it should not happen. Apart from that strength, we have now the physical man that we see. What you earn with your sweat. It may be working on your body to make yourself look nice. It is not allowed for you to give it to any woman. Not every woman who should feel and enjoy your body. That is also part of your strength to a woman that you will marry.

The third thing is what you earn with your strength. That money, car, land, house or anything should not be given to any woman. This man has to focus and use it with the woman whom he will find and get her as a wife. Wait until you get your good thing. Enjoy your riches with that woman alone.

This man of high caliber should avoid drinking. Wine is not for a king or any strong drink. It does not strengthen you but puts you into your weakest point. The dangers of drinking are actually listed there. First, you are going to forget the law. What does the law tell you? That you should not give your strength to women. Once you forget that you will end up into giving in. you will get into waste and destruction and be in the path to perishing. Actually, it is written that strong drink is for them that want to perish. A man of high caliber will not get himself into this.

A man of high caliber will always be the mouth for the oppressed. He will not sit and watch things happen without acting. He will make the right judgment and after that get into the right track of helping them. This means he has wisdom in him and he knows how to apply it without compromising.

A man that we are talking about should have a stand. Should recognize himself to be a man and a king before any woman out there sees it. The kingship is always in every boy but it is him who has the ability to bring it up and to pull it out, apply and stand with it from deep inside. Once it is seen from the outside every other man, child or woman will see it and address that man as a king.

This is the kind of a man that any virtuous woman out there is standing, watching and waiting to receive in her life. Men, you have to come up. Bring it up and attain that title of a man and a king. However, you must avoid woman who have strange eyes. Those who want nothing else but to feed from your strength. Stop taking strong drinks because it is not meant for you. A man of high caliber will not have a heavy heart. He will always let go and so there is no need for strong drink.

If you want to be a man of high caliber, then get on your feet and act. Be that head that a virtuous woman want. Be a stable family man who has eyes for no other woman out there but the one in his house. Be a man of high caliber.

To All Boys, Men, Kings, Husbands And Fathers Out There! A Big Salute!

Qualities of a Virtuous Woman Continues

Let’s continue…

Well, friends we stopped on quality number five and that is where we will pick from. The main purpose for this post is to help us be this kind of a woman we all desire to be. It is possible as long as we have that willing heart and we practice. People have actually responded very well on this post and as we continue you are going to love it all.

  1. She invests
woman of virtue

virtuous woman

Most women will find some piece of land being sold somewhere and will take that as man’s business and not theirs. Here we find a woman who sees a land and puts it into consideration. She chooses to buy it. Actually, she doesn’t go to the husband to ask for money but buys it with her own money. After that she plants vineyard. With such a family riches and wealth will accompany them forever.

  1. She girds her loins with strength

It also says that her hands are strong. This means her lifestyle is one worth and that is why she is not worn out always. She also gets strength because she doesn’t just sit down and eat but she works hard. She takes care of herself and it is hard to bring her down with issues and failures.

  1. She is kind

This woman is compassionate and she does not turn her face away from the needy and poor people that comes on her way. She stretches her hand not to receive but to share with them.

  1. She is modesty

Her clothing is silk for a covering. This means she does not walk naked as most women would do and call it modesty. Actually, it says that she is clothed with strength which we can say it is in the inner of her and the second thing is honor. This shows that she doesn’t walk out and people want to close their eyes but will look at her without shame because she is well dressed. Her house is also well dressed with scarlet. Isn’t she admirable?

  1. She watches what comes out of her mouth

This virtuous woman will not just release a word from her mouth. She speaks with wisdom. She knows what to say, when, and where. This tells you that she will not have a mouth conflict with her household or neighbors. Gossip is always far from her and she is not abusive.

  1. She fears God

Her foundation is all set and rightly set. This is because the scriptures tell us that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. She has become successful because she has the wisdom and knows how to apply it in different areas. This virtuous woman knows the scriptures and cannot be deceived.

That is a woman who has Virtue in her. Remember we said virtue is being regarded as a person who has high values, asset and good quality. Who can find such a woman? The scripture tells us that whoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing. However, you might find another who is not a good thing but a spoiled one. We are going to talk about such a woman in our post next week and you should not miss it. The next post we will be discussing is the importance of a virtuous woman in a family set up.

Thank you for visiting virtuous woman blog by Waisay a woman who you will be meeting soon.

Women of virtue – Who could she be?

Hello and welcome to my very first post this year. It has actually taken me a long time to write for this blog where we discuss stories and issues to do with women and families. I cannot say that am a total expert in this. What I do is sit with women who know more and who teach things to do with women. Some of them have experience in different areas of life and so as they share they want to help us know how far we can go and how quickly we can escape.  At times, I sit down and listen to them talk.  it is awesome getting counsel from women who are above 50 years.

Proverbs 31 woman

Women of virtue

If you have been visiting this blog and following my posts you will notice that what am writing today is like a renewal of my first article, which I wrote some couple of years back. It still has the most views. At that time, I contacted several men and asked them who they think a virtuous women is and they told me…

Maybe you can check on what they had to say.

After that I wrote on the same topic. Now, I defiantly have more knowledge on this topic and that is why I want to share it with you mostly from a biblical perspective.[am a woman of faith]

Virtuous woman – proverbs 31

This part of the scriptures talks of a woman that every man who is, has ever lived under the sun want to marry and every child want such as a mother. All of us want to be that kind of a woman. Virtue comes with a lot of means such as desirable quality, high caliber, good value, asset among others. Mmmh!… just wondering of this woman who is called an asset. It is amazing. Now, the name woman has a meaning too except what you may understand.

The important thing about understanding is going to the root of something. That is why you go under first then you stand with the knowledge.  The word woman is a combination of two different words. The first word is WO which stands for womb. And we all know what womb is and what it is all about.  This holds or carried the baby for the 9 months. And that is how important it is.

The second word is MAN. This simply means a man who has a womb. Therefore, we can conclude and say that there is a difference between a man and a woman. A man does not have a womb while a woman has one.  Now, back to the track on proverb 31 woman. Who can not only conceive but also carry and hold the baby. What a strength? Woman you are important.

While talking about virtuous woman as per the Holy Scriptures. We find king Lemuel talking on what his mother taught him. It is amazing how it starts by giving counsel to this King. Most of the times we focus on the part of a woman alone while forgetting men who are as well spoken to from verse 1-9.

From that point, we find King asking a very important question there. Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. It continues to say that even her husband trusts her safely. Let us check on the determining qualities for a virtuous woman.

Qualities of a virtuous woman 

Who can find a Virtuous woman

For her price is far beyond rubies

Favour Is Deceitful, And Beauty Is Vain; But A Woman That Feareth The LORD, She Shall Be Praised.

  1. She can be trusted safely

People have trust issues. It is very hard to find a person who trusts another fully and safely, that you can share with them all your secrets and visions. This is because some will pull you down while others will condemn you for some other failures that you have had. Others fear that you might go ahead and inform another person about them. Which from that point will create a gossip. But here we find a woman who has this quality of being faithful to be trusted. This means that the husband can entrust her with all the properties because she will not waste/spoil but will make the family to prosper. This is not a woman who can do anything not for her own gain but for her whole family.

  1. She does good

See a pure heart in this woman. She will always do good to her husband. This means no evil thought will come out of her heart where we hide many issues and when it is full they come out. Doing good here means making the husband happy and proud. This is because she has a pure heart and she will not do good one day but all the days of her life. Every man will definitely look for such a woman.

  1. She is hardworking – She doesn’t eat bread of idleness

This virtuous woman will not sit down with neighbors and start to talk of how things are and who did what. She finds something to do with her hands. She finds wool and flax and she does it willingly. No one forces her to work or tells her do this and stop being idle. She is also this kind of a woman who would make things such as clothes/anything with her hand. It does not have to be necessarily clothes. After that she takes it to the merchants. This woman makes money!

  1. A Merchants ship

What a character? Her family cannot go hungry at any given time. She works hard and she can go far to ensure that there is food on the table for the children. This means she doesn’t have to wait for the husband to bring food on the table. Woman of strength!

  1. Early raiser

A virtuous woman does not wait to hear the birds of the air sing for her to rise up and prepare her family for the day. This woman wakes up early and prepares meat/food to her family/household and she prepares a portion for her maidens. Woo.. It is amazing. Imagine a woman who wakes early to prepare something for her servants. She has such a great heart. How many women will do this? Some actually will sleep well and give orders while they are still on bed because they have servants. Very bad!

To be continued

Well, we will continue with the qualities of a virtuous woman in the next post. Keep watching for more and let us learn until we attain that title of being called virtuous women.

Focus on Africa women today

African Women have been known of being enslaved to their husband in everything. This has been a good culture to follow and live in and many men look for such women to marry. The word equality which I don’t know whether it was brought by the western world has brought a lot changes in that there is no submission anymore which is causing a lot of trouble in marriages. Many women ‘independent women’ has greatly influenced the world in this and it is not only in Africa but other nations.

Some years back we could see an African Woman waking up early to go do her work which is to serve the husband and children. They could do a lot of work during the day such as cultivate land and still ensure that their children are schooling which the husband could spend the day watching over the livestock or even doing nothing much. Some would even go to office work and come in the evening but still find that their homes are well managed by one woman. The women who used to do office work could also manage to leave work and still go cook, do cleaning among other chores and family work. This is very different compared to the live we are living today.

It is not a surprise anymore to hear that a woman has refused to do house chores because she has been working during the day. The same thing happens that many men are doing women work and cooking for themselves because women have refused their work. Now you wonder whether we really have women or all of us have become men. This issue is causing a lot of separation and men are therefore going out with younger girls and even eating in restaurants. It is true this is not a kind of a society which we want to live in and so change is required.

Most of women say that they are tired and cannot even cook for the husband and leaving all the work to the house help. One of the reported causes is the food that we are eating and the whole issue of equality since there is women who say they have also been working the whole day just like men are doing. But the big question is; is the respect of the name ‘man’ fading away? Yes it is. There is no submission and this has as well resulted to a lot of divorce cases.  On the other hand we can focus on the African Man and see whether he is still having such problem/. According to many women many men have not changed and they are still counted as the breadwinner and they are making it.

“With their efforts we can see potential into providing for the whole family in general especially when a women are playing their role well” this is one of the answers that I got when I was discussing with a colleague. I totally agree with him but still there are some men who have as well forgotten their duties. Once a man forgets his duties there is a high chance that the woman will raise up and take over the whole family thereby leaving the woman behind. This will not only affect the husband’s relationship with the wife but the father children relationship.

So, what can solve this? The name man has lost its value and it is higher time that it be taken as it used to. Let the respect remain and be taught to the children. Women should also do their family duties as required just like African Women used to do sometimes back. This will help in maintaining our African culture and the name virtuous women will be restored back to this beautiful continent. To wake up early in the morning, prepare your family for the day and to go to your work will make it all happen. And of course do it with love. The same happens in the evening when you areal back, do not be lazy woman! Be an African Woman- strong woman. Next time we are going to focus on African Men and see the changes they have embraced which are ruining marriages in Africa.

Importance of a virtuous woman in a family set up

Hello friends, in the previous post I had promised to talk about the importance of a virtuous woman in a family set up. The first thing which I would like to highlight is what the word family set up means in this post. This means she is the woman of the house, a wife, a mother and overseer of every family activity under the head who is the husband. She actually has more strength to work because most of the duties it is her who has to carry. In the last post that I did last year talks about this woman being the body organs and so she has to be the hand, leg, eye, nose and any other part that you have.

Modern woman who applies proverbs 31

Modern woman who applies proverbs 31

Woman being the backbone of any family is very important and we are going to check on the same scripture proverb 31 what is the outcome of having all those qualities. First, you will notice that her husband is known by the gates. This man is recognized by the whole household. After the gate he is also recognized by the elders of the land. This means he has a position which is well managed at home. He attends to all his duties because every order he makes as the head is attended to. ‘If he can lead a family he can lead a land.’ By Josephine Waisay

This tells us that this man has become the head under a responsible body who is a virtuous woman. As they say behind every successive man there is a successful woman. He is also a responsible father to the fruit of the womb which is given unto them.

The children of her womb are also glad with their mother. They rise up and the find all things set, the husband the same and they call her blessed. Imagine your own children coming to that point of saying mummy you are blessed. Leave a lone that, the husband praises her. Most woman complain that the husband is not even noticing them or saying a word of praise unto them not knowing it is because they have not touched him in any way. Now you know extra effort is needed.

The husband uses very nice words, ‘many daughters have done virtuously but thou excellest them all’. That is a virtuous woman receiving words of praise from the husband.

Apart from that you will notice that she is also an entrepreneur and won’t eat the bread of idleness. She will have to find it with her own hands and the distance does not matter at all. She is ready to give the best to her family. That is what we would call commitment.

Her family is always in order. The children are together and the husband is there too. Such a woman will ensure that all the children know their position and they recognize their head. They are known and this is a kind of a family, which will receive praise from people.

If you want such a family. If you want praise and to make your whole family merry always, learn from this woman and you will not get it wrong at all. It is all easy to understand but it will take a woman of strength to apply this and attain that level of being called a virtuous woman.