Hello and welcome to my very first post this year. It has actually taken me a long time to write for this blog where we discuss stories and issues to do with women and families. I cannot say that am a total expert in this. What I do is sit with women who know more and who teach things to do with women. Some of them have experience in different areas of life and so as they share they want to help us know how far we can go and how quickly we can escape. At times, I sit down and listen to them talk. it is awesome getting counsel from women who are above 50 years.
If you have been visiting this blog and following my posts you will notice that what am writing today is like a renewal of my first article, which I wrote some couple of years back. It still has the most views. At that time, I contacted several men and asked them who they think a virtuous women is and they told me…
Maybe you can check on what they had to say.
After that I wrote on the same topic. Now, I defiantly have more knowledge on this topic and that is why I want to share it with you mostly from a biblical perspective.[am a woman of faith]
Virtuous woman – proverbs 31
This part of the scriptures talks of a woman that every man who is, has ever lived under the sun want to marry and every child want such as a mother. All of us want to be that kind of a woman. Virtue comes with a lot of means such as desirable quality, high caliber, good value, asset among others. Mmmh!… just wondering of this woman who is called an asset. It is amazing. Now, the name woman has a meaning too except what you may understand.
The important thing about understanding is going to the root of something. That is why you go under first then you stand with the knowledge. The word woman is a combination of two different words. The first word is WO which stands for womb. And we all know what womb is and what it is all about. This holds or carried the baby for the 9 months. And that is how important it is.
The second word is MAN. This simply means a man who has a womb. Therefore, we can conclude and say that there is a difference between a man and a woman. A man does not have a womb while a woman has one. Now, back to the track on proverb 31 woman. Who can not only conceive but also carry and hold the baby. What a strength? Woman you are important.
While talking about virtuous woman as per the Holy Scriptures. We find king Lemuel talking on what his mother taught him. It is amazing how it starts by giving counsel to this King. Most of the times we focus on the part of a woman alone while forgetting men who are as well spoken to from verse 1-9.
From that point, we find King asking a very important question there. Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. It continues to say that even her husband trusts her safely. Let us check on the determining qualities for a virtuous woman.
Qualities of a virtuous woman
Favour Is Deceitful, And Beauty Is Vain; But A Woman That Feareth The LORD, She Shall Be Praised.
- She can be trusted safely
People have trust issues. It is very hard to find a person who trusts another fully and safely, that you can share with them all your secrets and visions. This is because some will pull you down while others will condemn you for some other failures that you have had. Others fear that you might go ahead and inform another person about them. Which from that point will create a gossip. But here we find a woman who has this quality of being faithful to be trusted. This means that the husband can entrust her with all the properties because she will not waste/spoil but will make the family to prosper. This is not a woman who can do anything not for her own gain but for her whole family.
- She does good
See a pure heart in this woman. She will always do good to her husband. This means no evil thought will come out of her heart where we hide many issues and when it is full they come out. Doing good here means making the husband happy and proud. This is because she has a pure heart and she will not do good one day but all the days of her life. Every man will definitely look for such a woman.
- She is hardworking – She doesn’t eat bread of idleness
This virtuous woman will not sit down with neighbors and start to talk of how things are and who did what. She finds something to do with her hands. She finds wool and flax and she does it willingly. No one forces her to work or tells her do this and stop being idle. She is also this kind of a woman who would make things such as clothes/anything with her hand. It does not have to be necessarily clothes. After that she takes it to the merchants. This woman makes money!
- A Merchants ship
What a character? Her family cannot go hungry at any given time. She works hard and she can go far to ensure that there is food on the table for the children. This means she doesn’t have to wait for the husband to bring food on the table. Woman of strength!
- Early raiser
A virtuous woman does not wait to hear the birds of the air sing for her to rise up and prepare her family for the day. This woman wakes up early and prepares meat/food to her family/household and she prepares a portion for her maidens. Woo.. It is amazing. Imagine a woman who wakes early to prepare something for her servants. She has such a great heart. How many women will do this? Some actually will sleep well and give orders while they are still on bed because they have servants. Very bad!
To be continued
Well, we will continue with the qualities of a virtuous woman in the next post. Keep watching for more and let us learn until we attain that title of being called virtuous women.