If he can lead a family he can lead a land.’ By Josephine Waisay
Boy Child’s Life
One of the most discussed topics in lady’s topic is ‘a gentleman’. Every lady out there is looking for a gentleman. A man who is handling a lady like a weaker vessel. Very gently. However, getting such is rare to be sincere. This man must have gone through the hands of a person who molded him to become that gentle man. Other titles which are actually used is what we have used on the topic such as a man not by title but in everything his being has and also a king. Someone who rules in a certain kingdom and he feels it and people sees it. In our post today, we are going to find out who makes a boy to be a king and a man. This is because a man is actually made. Just like in the case of a woman. She must be nurtured into a virtuous woman not by nature but by someone.
The sayings that we know are totally true and has a lot of sense in them. Let’s look at them;
- It takes a King to mentor a King
- It takes a man to groom a boy into a man
- It takes a man to man a man
- It takes a king-to-king size a new king
We must have a man and a woman to help this young boy…. Read below…
Well, they are quite a number but we will still discuss this here and help you understand your role in making a king in a boy or ‘manning’ a man. Most of us learn from those who are near us always how to do things even before we get our senses to think and decided what to do. This starts when a child is young. He will not just come with a new style from nowhere. He must have seen or heard it somewhere. That is how we all learn.
For a boy to become a king there must be a king in his life from his tender age. Otherwise, where will he learn from? Actually, boys who grow with both parents benefit a lot from this or at times, they may get the worst of it. It takes a man of high caliber to make that small boy to become a real man even when he is still small. This is because the man figure or king is showing this boy how to do things and he must be doing the same for this boy to get some nuggets from him and join them in his senses to become the king. Most boys who have kings in their lives end up becoming better kings than their mentors.
The man maybe the father to this boy child, a mentor, big brother or uncles. They are supposed to play the whole role to ensure that the little man becomes a man and a king. If a man is not groomed, there is no way he can groom another one. This means a boy must have a groomed man in his life for him to be a man. That is why it is important for the single mothers to find some men of high caliber who can man their young ones in all ways.
If a man is not a man enough in how he carries himself and handles issues there is no way he can bring a up a man or king in boy’s life. This calls out men out there to be groomed if at all we are going to have men in the society who are real men. Otherwise, the society will remain toned as it is right now.
According to the bible, we see find King David giving instruction to his son who later became the king. He was instructed on how to carry himself and what to do. We need men who are instructing their sons in everything. Be a man in that boy’s life and make him follow your instructions when he is still young and when he grows up he will apply them. We also find Solomon the king telling sons to keep their father’s commandments and mother’s instructions. If your boys lack this then the foundation is destroyed.
A father or a boy’s mentor should know what is good for that young man. We find the case of Abraham in the bible knowing what is good for his son. He gives instructions to his servant on where to go and get a wife for Isaac. This means he knew what was the best for his son. Isaac had been taught by his father to obey the commandment and so we don’t see anywhere he is saying that he does not want that wife. This is because his father knew what is best for his son and he chooses the right person to go get the wife.
Now, wait for the part two of this next week as we talk about how a mother is supposed to man up a boy into a man. Don’t forget if he can lead a family he can lead a land, if only he is brought up like a responsible man.
Boy Child’s Life
Most boys like their mothers and they grow with them. Mummies play a very significant role in their life. That is why we are finding King Lemuel saying what his mother told him in proverbs 31. If she didn’t maybe we won’t be reading it. Boys talk of their mothers more and they are close to each other by nature. Therefore, when that boy is still your boy you need to man him up. Tell him what to do and when to do it. Actually, women know what to expect from a man and how a man should carry himself than men themselves. They know how they should be treated better than a man know how to treat a woman.
This means you can help this boy when he is still young. Let him know that he is a man. Treat him like a man and a king when he is still small. Let him learn from you much and allow him to spend time with his father, uncles and men who have qualities that you want your son to carry in him all the days of his life.
If you read what Paul the apostle writes to Timothy his son in faith in, you will know the truth in this. Paul says that Timothy has the unfeigned faith, which was in his grandmother and his mother. From these two women we get to know where this young man got his faith. What has your son learnt from you? What will people say that this young man got it from her mother? Think of it.
We also find Samson’s mother being instructed by God on how to bring up his son as a Nazarene. Why not from his father? I can only guess this…. But it shows expressly a woman has to play a very significant role in bringing up his boy child.
A mother should be a teacher to this boy. Let him learn the fundamentals of life from you. Dressing, walking, talking and everything he must be taught by you. Any virtuous woman can handle such a task very well and he will produce a product that a nation is looking for.
We also find Hannah, Samuel’s mother taking charge over his son’s life. She gave birth to him and had already decided how his life should be. She took the young boy in the house of God and that is where he grew up in. Apart from that we find her taking care of him. He used to dress him. Every year he could go and take something to him. Mothers should also do the same. They should know what is right for their sons and give it to them. If your son’s dressing or character doesn’t please you as a mom then know it is because you made some fault in one of his life’s steps. Maybe you took him in a boarding school and forgot to instruct and mentor him.
Sisters should also help the young boy. The mother should teach them that this is not just a boy in the house. The man respect should be given to him when he is still young even if he is the youngest of them all. Let him be taught how to handle issues. Let him know how far he can go as the father gives limitations.
Going back to the story of Isaac you will notice that Sarah knew what was best for her son. He knows who is supposed to inherit the wealth and riches of the husband. She sends Ishmael’s mother away because she recognized the rights of her son. This is how it should be. Know what portion your son should take and let him know what belong to him and how to take of it. Do not let him waste it with women or friends. He must be molded into responsibility from that small age.
Be like Isaac’s wife who knew who was supposed to take what. She had wisdom and apart from loving Jacob, she knew he was supposed to take the blessing.
Mothers must be prophets of their son’s destiny
In the beginning of proverbs 31, we find king telling us that this is the prophecy which was given by his mother to him. It was ‘instructory’ if we may say and it helped the king. You also need to do the same to your boy child every day. Speak good things in their life.
If you are a virtuous woman, with sons or without sons, make every boy who come on your way to feel like a king. Remember if he can lead a family, he can lead a land. Thank you..
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